Practice

I know that it sounds like I’m being silly, but take your time to pay attention to what your body is doing, what it responds to etc.

You can then start to control it a bit more

It’s not difficult to do, but don’t overdo it

I have basically conditioned myself not to cum until my woman has. Occasionally she does something that trips my switch quickly, but it’s very rare

It may sound great (and it mostly is) but when she wants it to be all about me, I have a hard time really relaxing into it