Generally, convincing a partner to open a relationship is a bad idea. It’s better to frame it as something you’d like to try, and let them gradually warm to the idea through conversation.

But since he’s bringing it up, you can modify that. Be honest. Tell him that it’s a turn on. Discuss the boundaries, expectations and benefits. Let it build to a mutual desire, and it’ll happen naturally.

It’s usually a good idea to be very picky about who is and isn’t an acceptable play partner. Strangers vs friends are a totally different vibe. Men vs women. Emotional bonding okay or not. All the little things that can make the experience go good or bad.

Back in the era of my non monogamous life, if I was sharing with other men, it had to be a situation of mutual respect. No exceptions, no mistakes on that allowed or I was out and that meant out if the boundary wasn’t enforced by my partner as well. So it was almost always going to happen with friends, or in established groups for the purpose.

With women, I still insisted on that respect, it was just less likely to go wrong since even unfamiliar women willing to play were also usually all about agreements being done before play. Only ever had to call that rule into things once. Then again, even with men because it was always a mutually agreed process, it never had to go beyond a “hey man, remember we’re all here to have fun, it isn’t a competition” and it would be fine, no need to end the play.

Really, most guys that are bringing it up, all you gotta do is be patient and be willing to insist everything is hashed out before there’s other dick in you. Which is just as true if you’re all guys, as far as I ever saw, and it holds true if there’s no second dick involved at all.

I’ve been the second guy as well. So I’d say make sure that whoever you might pick is aware of your boundaries and asks questions that show they understand what is involved, rather than them chasing tail and not caring about anything else. It’s a hell of a lot nicer if you’re the outsider if your new partners are clear about big issues. Like, if the couple want a bit of role play where you’re playing bull, you need to know that. And the reverse is even more important; if there’s something like they don’t want you complimenting or encouraging either of them, you want to know that. It can be awkward as hell to express admiration of someone’s cunnilingus skills and they realize that they don’t want your input like that.

Remember, all the work it takes/took you and your guy to become happy partners has to be done for the third person, and it has to be right for both of you and for him/her. It’s not just you having sex with the third party, even if your bf isn’t in the room. There’s still three interactions in play. If you’re all in the room, every little dynamic might matter.

Also, since your question came with a pic, I don’t think you’ll have trouble finding someone, so you can afford to be picky.

I’m all for it.

It’s easy enough to filter out if a specific user gets spammy, and I got very used to seeing men naked in erotic settings a long time ago. It doesn’t turn me on, but it’s still nice to know that guys can share themselves and feel good.

I do have a bit of snobbery about the quality of the pictures themselves, but does that matter? I don’t vote based on it, and don’t even comment often enough to spend that time complaining about someone else’s pics.

But you did ask for input about types of pics. Me, from the standpoint of appreciating good erotic photography, I prefer shots taken with some care and planning. Random dick picks are boring. As are those where someone is throttling their dong. We’ve all seen that, it ceases to be visually compelling.

A good shot that includes the rest of the body to some degree, in decent lighting, and in natural poses are top tier. A penis isn’t necessary for a picture to be erotic, the same as full frontal isn’t necessary for photos of women to be. So, when in doubt, diversify. Give us the line of your hip, or the way lats curve. Something showing the beauty of the male form.

Sure, and it’s easy to tell the difference usually. Mouth, pussy, ass, they’re just built different.

Now, an ass that’s been well used, if you’re wearing a condom, could probably be harder to tell from a warmed up pussy.

And yes, you can usually tell if a pussy has already been well fucked. The muscles tend to relax after the first few. If anyone ahead of you was allowed to come inside, it’s definitely more slippery. You might not notice as much if you’re wearing a condom, but if you pay attention you can tell the difference between semen and pussy juice even through a condom.

I rarely shared a woman with other men where I was willing to not use a condom, but you can absolutely tell the difference then, without question. I’ve been the first one in, and gone later in the train, and it is unmistakable, even without anyone coming inside.

With enough men, it may not be pleasant though. A lot of women will stop being able to lubricate on their own, and if they don’t want artificial lube, it can get into the kind of pain that isn’t fun trying to go at it the way is usually wanted in a situation like that. Most women I encountered that wanted a gang bang wanted it to be hard, forceful. A dry pussy hurts a bit to get into and can hurt a lot to fuck. Trying to fuck hard, and even with a love of pain, it can be too much.

So, if you’re prone to running out of your own juices, plan ahead if you’re taking more than two or three in a row. Have lube handy, or be prepared to be raw by the end of things.

Im as kink friendly as it gets. But scat is off the menu, period.

There’s plenty of stuff that I don’t or won’t participate in as a receiver, like sounding as an example, but it doesn’t bother me at all to see. But if there’s scat play going on, I’m out. Don’t want to even see it, much less smell it or hear it.

My own kinks run towards bdsm. Predominantly dominance play, bondage, and pain. I’m dominant, and being tied up isn’t interesting to me, but I enjoy pain for myself, though not all types in all situations.

My preference is for gentle domination rather than aggressive or demeaning, though I can do that. I just really enjoy the process of taking a partner deeper into the sensation of giving up control, sinking into the pleasure of pain. To me, the most fun way of getting there is slow, gradual, and in a way that’s more a seduction into the darkness than a push. Even using floggers and whips, I like to build up, layer sensations and types of pain until the sub gets pulled under by their own mind rather than being overwhelmed from the outside.

If that’s done while the sub is tied up, be it as simple as wrist cuffs, or as complex as a suspension, all the better. I like them knowing they could be free, if they asked for it, and getting right to the edge where they might safe word out, but don’t want to because there’s still more to experience.

But, when I’m in the mood to receive sensation, take pain, part of my enjoyment is in not needing the restraint. It’s pushing myself to my own boundaries that does it for me. I want something I can grab to keep myself stable, but that I can’t rely on keeping me upright. If I fall, I want to fall, not just hang there, if that makes sense.

I prefer to top women, but have topped men as well. It’s less sexual with men, since I’m not attracted to them, but when the sub needs some degree of sexual activity, I can manage to do it. I can usually rely on the dominance play to give enough arousal to give them what they need, if they do need it to be sexual. A few times, back in my younger days when I was still active in the local scene, I needed a woman partner involved if a man wanted some kind of sexual interaction as part of the scene, and I definitely performed better with a woman involved.

To me, there wasn’t much difference in my own enjoyment between topping a man my way, and topping a woman that preferred very hard methods, or wanted a fast ramp up in force. Sure, I didn’t and don’t enjoy men, and I do enjoy women, but my preference for my style of dominance and pain is more enjoyable than other ways of doing things. It’s one of those “at least I’m playing at all” kind of things.

And I definitely enjoy pleasing someone that’s a long term partner any way they need. But when you’re playing with people at a party or small gathering, it isn’t always going to be your actual partner, and it’s still fun to play when single, so applying sometimes you work outside your preferences

Me and my wife play together, but we stay monogamous unless it’s a very special occasion.