I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.
For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.
I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.
Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.
What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?
I had an appointment with my new doctor today, and unfortunately it seems it is related to my mood stabilizers or a combo of psych meds and HRT. We can’t say that it is 100% the cause, but he thinks that is what it is.
He suggested that we could change the psych meds, but I am quite hesitant to do so. It took a very long time to find something that helps, and I’d rather not start that process over.
He offered viagra or the like to make it so I can get properly hard again, but I don’t have sensation down there like I used to. I’ll go a month without using my vibrator, abstaining from masturbation completely, but there is no effect. I don’t see the point.
It wasn’t the answer I was looking for. I didn’t get my hopes up prior to the visit, so I was not really disappointed.
Such is life I suppose.
It’s a start, It might be worth trying the viagra if it’s something you are comftorable with. As for the psych drugs it can be hard to find one that works for you. It may be worth trying something different, you know you best though. In any case, I hope you find a solution. If it makes you feel better, I can’t get hard half the time due to a combination of anxiety, depression, and excessive cooming.