Different people have very different lives, so I’m interested to hear the range of replies.

Do you only get sexual in a monogamous relationship? Do you use ‘hookup apps’ or specialized apps? Do you meet people at events? Casual events, special-interest clubs, hobby clubs? Are you involved in a fetish community? Do your friendships become sexual? Do you party at dance clubs? Do you pay at a brothel? Do you get approached unexpectedly in public? Do you look for partners intentionally or do you meet partners incidentally?

  • lazyneet@programming.devEnglish
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    4 months ago

    Where indeed? I’m pansexual, currently leaning more gay, nb-presenting male with a thin frame. If I had no standards, I could probably find some bear in the area. Scruff is another gay app, and I managed to meet someone through that who looks like my type but isn’t much of a top and didn’t want to meet again. I’m also on a BDSM-focused gay site called Recon, where I’ve been engaged in a multi-month ongoing conversation with this shy pantyhose fetishist who eventually wants to try things. I avoid Grindr because I’m not looking for disposable experiences.

  • deezcashews@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    4 months ago

    Straight middle aged white male here

    Bars mostly, work your way into a conversation, and start buying drinks. But don’t go into it trying to score, just hang out and make friends. If it happens it happens, if not, you just made some new friends who have more friends, and eventually you might meet someone cool.

    Apps were better before tinder, you could go on okcupid or plentyoffish and be drowning in dates. Now it’s all swiping and no one reads shit, if your first picture isn’t god tier you don’t have a chance.