• Bvytsdf@lemmynsfw.com
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    3 months ago

    I want to know what turns on other cultures. In the USA (stereotypically), it’s huge breasts paired with a tiny waist and full rump; or the yogabody look. For men, it’s trim and hung. *

    But what gets say Japanese women going? Or what do Korean women like? Or Nigerian women? Hitomi Tanaka once said Japanese porn was all about defiling. So that explains some of their unique scene types.

    What do Chinese women find hot about men? About Western men? Are there any universals?

    And I’ve set this all up from hetero male, but these dynamics apply to all types.

    • yes there are always many who are turned on by the counter narrative, but let’s start with the big tendencies.
  • Bob@lemmynsfw.com
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    3 months ago

    Is it hard for prostitutes/escorts to distinguish between work and private enjoyment? Do they cum well during work or is it more like a chore where its not feeling good?

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      3 months ago

      Also not a prostitute, also heard them answer this before.

      They often pick something that makes it clearly different. Like always use condom at work, never outside work. Maybe only the boyfriend gets anal. Or maybe only the boyfriend gets vagina.

      Actually the condom thing was an issue mentioned in the news in my country. That is not a good strategy, especially if they get a new partner fairly often.

    • Rainbow_Spit@lemmynsfw.com
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      3 months ago

      Not an escort or prostitute, but the answer I’ve heard:

      “It’s like any other job. Sometimes you like the work, sometimes you don’t mind, and sometimes you feel like quitting”

  • Danquebec@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    I’ve read lesbians sometimes don’t find out they are lesbian until they are in their twenties.

    How is that even possible? Have they never felt arousal until then? Have they not seen girls undressing in the locker rooms? Have they not seen sexy music videos? And many more questions.

    At 12 I (m) was masturbating to music videos of Beyonce ans Christina Aguilera, and just seeing a woman in a short skirt can make me breathless for a second. The concept of not having found one’s sexuality until adulthood is a hard one for me to grasp.

    • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.com
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      3 months ago

      You have to remember that society is always telling you to live your life in a very specific way. Being an awkward teenager is a period where you’re supposed to be confused and finding things out about the world and being an lgbtq teenager is no different. There’s a surplus of teenage hormones that are new and confusing and you may not know what you want.

      For lesbian women specifically, it’s not easy to have the entire world telling you your sexuality is just going to be a phase and that one day a big strong man is going to come along and “fix” you because after all “everyone feels those feelings sometimes.”

      Disclaimer: I’m not a lesbian woman, just a bi guy with some experience with being confused about my sexuality.

      • Klnsfw 🏳️‍🌈@lemmynsfw.com
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        3 months ago

        As a bi guy, I relate. It took me ages to understand that I was not straight. It’s easy and comfortable to comply to the heteronormativity, and ignore other feelings and options.

        And, if I was a bi woman, I think that I would present myself as a lesbian. First, because most straight men are still cavemen. I wouldn’t date a guy, unless I’m 100% sure he’s a safe golden retriever. Also, because of the prejudices against bi women (“what about a threesome with an other girl?”).

        I don’t want to idealize lesbian relationships, but between crossing a straight cis man, a lesbian or a bear in a forest, the choice seems pretty obvious to me.

  • Beth-24F@lemmynsfw.com
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    3 months ago

    I don’t know if this is inappropriate or not, but I always wondered if it’s possible to have a good LTR after having passionate sex on the first date?

    Why are some men good at communicating while others view it as weakness and are more Stoic whilst interacting?

    • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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      3 months ago

      I never waited for sex, my feeling is that I want a man who likes sex, not a man who is into “the chase”, and I value sexual chemistry, and feel the physical intimacy is the shallower level of intimacy. It certainly has not prevented me from finding good long term guys, no. I had one 20 year run, and have been with my husband for about 12 years now.

      I guess I am way more interested in weeding out those guys who like the buildup better than sex, because they are the ones who lose interest after you have sex, or who think the first time is the best.

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      3 months ago

      I think it’s very possible to have a good LTR after having passionate sex on the first date. I know people say to make the guy wait to weed out guys just looking to score.

      And you have to blame the right and people like Andrew Tate for men not communicating or opening up. They tell men they are not supposed to.

  • lath@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    After pooping, do you clean the folds, wash and forget or don’t even bother cleaning after?

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      3 months ago

      I try to bidet if I can. If I can’t I wipe as much as possible (within a reasonable time) but I feel the need shower or wash because I get itchy

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        3 months ago

        That’s called swamp ass. it’s because your technique is off. you’re supposed to wipe in small circles, each going deeper into the ass. not superficial straight wipes.

        Did you know that the US is the only 1st world country where people generally don’t power wash their asshole after a shit?

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          2 months ago

          . you’re supposed to wipe in small circles, each going deeper into the ass. not superficial straight wipes.

          I need to try this. Do most people wipe like this? Maybe I’ve been doing it wrong my whole life

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            2 months ago

            Yes. it takes practice because for most of us when something is pushed into the starfish the first instinct is to clench up. The first two wipes should be superficial lines, with a J scooping motion, barely grazing the hole. This allows release of any dingleberries without smearing them onto the asshole. After this, wipes should be circular, starting gently on the surface. When a wipe comes clean, then next circular wipe should have a bit more push into the bung hole. You might notice that what you thought was a clean asshole isn’t really so clean once you get in there. You don’t need to ram the toilet paper up your arse, but by the end wipes you should be about a fingernail’s length in. It takes practice because you have to consciously relax your asshole while doing it. Once a deep circular wipe comes clean, try one more circling in the opposite direction. You’ll find your ass happy and non-itchy. Nothing beats a shower, but this is the best process short of that.