Oral sex and masturbation are sex. To consider them as foreplay is to make penetration (and incidentally, male orgasm) the apha and omega of intercourse.

And to answer the question: mutual expression of desire and consent, and skin-to-skin contact. Exploring each other’s bodies with hands and lips.

I love rubbing my cock on hard nipples.

Kissing, dirty talk, touching and a bit of mutual masturbation

A relaxed mutual masturbation session. Just while cuddling playing with each other for as long as possible without the intention to reach orgasm. Under the sheets or something easy.

And a shower.

Wrestling is underrated.

I get basically nowhere without kissing. Talking and touching don’t really do it for me without the kissing. Even just a little polite peck gets the blood flowing.

Random acts of blowjob are the rare late night exception that prove the rule.