I’ve only used tinder before and the dude I met there ghosted me after he and his partner broke up. My husband has been encouraging me to look again and I’m feeling a bit better about myself lately so I’m debating checking something out and seeing who might be interested. I’m a post op trans woman for reference.
No such thing. The services for dating are all bot driven now. People end up paying for a service that simply isn’t as advertised.
Now, hookup services ala grindr, they can do better at finding real people, but it’s hit or miss about making connections that matter. Last I talked to anyone, adult friend finder is kinda decent, but you still run into it being more about hookups than any mid to long term connections. But, since you describe a pretty open situation with your partner, focusing on something that’s going to be non monogamous friendly like that is likely to be a better choice.